DISCLAIMER:  Analyze at your own risk!  There’s theory, and there’s real life.  Be careful what you do with too many rules, and please see the very last point of this post for THE #1 LEARNING I’ve gotten so far.

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Ok, so I’m obviously Dr. Phil, but I occasionally play Dr. Phil on TV.  The truth is I’m a psychology nut, and I love to think about how people interact and what makes things go well or poorly.

Over the years, through observing people and talking with people with much more life experience than I have, I have stumbled upon a number of ideas that, while none of them are completely or always true, seem to be reoccurring themes around successful relationships.  I’ve broken them down into two categories for now - 8 Ways to Kill Boredom in a Relationship, and 3 Relationship Killers.

Are these BOGUS?  Post a comment below and let me know what you think.

8 Ways to Kill Boredom in a Relationship

1.  Continually getting to know & understand each other

2.  HAVING A BLAST in ways that only the two of you can

3.  Helping each other be their best

4.  Giving to others - together (volunteer, give to charity, etc.)

5.  Learning new things - together (learn to dance, cook, skydive, etc.)

6.  Traveling & exploring - together

7.  Continually building and demonstrating trust, honesty, and positivity.

8.  Having emotional experiences - together (I’m not talking about getting all sad and sappy and crying together, I mean do things that are fun, exhilarating, exciting, interesting, things that stir up emotion in both of you!)

BONUS!! - 3 Relationship Killers

1.  Not acknowledging imperfection in yourself, and never learning how to integrate & transcend it directly relates to your ability to deal with imperfection in others in a healthy way.

2.  Coming into a relationship intending to ‘get’ things out of it rather than coming into a relationship ready to ‘give’ to the other person.

3.  Over-analyzing and talking about the relationship, rather than HAVING THE RELATIONSHIP.

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